I keep waiting for Uncle C to move into the house we own across the street from us. My daughter is now living there with her 4-year-old daughter and they are waiting for him. Part of the deal with her living there is that she is to be his night-time caregiver. It will be a big job, but she is okay with it. She is loving and patient with him. It’s a great deal all the way around. We are happy to have her and our only grandchild so close, Uncle C will have a nice, safe place he can call home and we get our privacy back. We have filled the house with furniture, pictures and lovely items that we brought over from Houston so it can feel like home.
We have had difficulty finding a night-time caregiver that we felt comfortable with. I kept trying, but honestly my husband was resisting. He was afraid of someone taking advantage of an elderly man. Believe it or not, it does happen – often. The one woman who appeared to be perfect as she was a retired registered nurse, had recently moved to our area so was looking for some place to live and was willing to be a full-time caregiver didn’t work out. She sat with him twice in one weekend and by the Sunday he was ready to marry her. Uh, no. Not sure what went on there, but that scared us.
Whenever the subject of moving comes up Uncle C responds with, “I think I’ll be strong enough by the middle of March,” – well, March has come and gone or “I think in a couple of weeks I’ll be strong enough and will have my license back by then so will be ready to go.” The latest stall tactic is his toe. Working in the garden together the Saturday before Easter, my husband told me that Uncle C would be moving the next weekend. Hubby kept assuring me that Uncle C was ready. To say I was skeptical is an understatement. As I walked back into the house Uncle C met me in the kitchen saying that as he was walking down the hall he heard a crack and now his toe was hurting. He finished it with, “I thought I’d be in the other house by next weekend, but I guess not now. When the wheels starting coming off they really come off.” Uncle C had my hubby take him to a walk in clinic on Easter Sunday morning, telling the doctor that he thought he had gout. (Silly me, I put that thought in his head). He was given a shot of cortisone, more pain meds and sent home.
Now his toe injury has encompassed his entire foot. He never complains to me about it, he’s never mentioned it to the caregiver, only to my hubby. He insisted on seeing another doctor this week for his foot. Uncle C started with the same story he told me, walking down the hall, heard a crack, only now the toe has become the entire foot. X-rays were done, nothing has become of it, but Uncle C walked out a happy man with another prescription for his pain meds (which we have not filled). I finally told my hubby to just tell Uncle C that he doesn’t have to move and maybe he’ll quit making us take him to all these darn doctors!
He just keeps stringing my husband and daughter along with “I think I’m almost ready to move,” and they keep falling for it. Me, not so much. Just yesterday he spoke to my daughter about moving. Now he’s just waiting for the handicap rail to be put in the tub. Well, that’s easy enough. We’ll get that done this weekend and see what happens next.
For now, I’ve resigned myself to having him in my home “till death do us part,” and he thinks he can live to a hundred. I guess I’ll be blogging a lot between now and then!
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